Rockstar Trait # 2- Find Your Purpose

Rock Star Trait # 2-Find your Purpose!

By Frank Candy, President, American Speakers Bureau Corporation Every person I have ever met who is at the top of their game in the business, publishing, entertainment, music and sports, had a dozen traits in common that made them a success. Throughout the year, I will provide insights and examples of these people and traits and provide suggestions on how you can develop them in your life.
#2  Find your path and purpose in life. Everyone has a purpose and natural talents. A few people are really good at writing. Various people are good at sports. A number of them are good at grinding out the work. Few people are really good at managing projects, and even fewer are good at leading and managing people. “Do what you love and you will never work another day in your life.” Confucius
  • The first thing everyone should do is look inside them and figure out what is in his or her hearts, and develop a plan follow it. So many top-level musicians, athletes, and executives I knew over the years, admitted to me they were unsatisfied in their lives. They had success; the toys, and trappings, like the big house, the fancy cars, the country club memberships, and social illusion of having it all, yet inside, they were unfulfilled and knew there was more. They never did the “look inside you” process to figure it out. In many cases they followed the status quo did not take the road less traveled. It takes guts to go outside of your comfort zone, we learned that in lesson 1.
  • Everyone should take some time out, hit the pause button in life, and go to a place where they feel comfortable (a mountain top, a beach, or a big rock by a river – you know what is right for you). Once you get there, have a pen and paper (or a recorder) and start writing about your dreams, visions and goals for you. Go deep inside and find out what is really important, ask what makes them so important and then ask why ands ask why at least five times.

Step number 2 to becoming a Rock Star in life is – Find look inside to find your path and purpose in life. Look for step #3 coming soon.

Frank Candy, President,  American Speakers Bureau Corporation

Rockstar Counsel

In the tradition of guest bloggers our next piece comes from Brent Britton……..a gifted lawyer and Rockstar himself!!!

Rockstar Counsel
Hi Rockstars! I am a lawyer.  I help people start companies, do deals, and become rockstars.  I try to be really good at this.  In fact, I try to be a big effing rockstar myself ! Like they say, “Go big, or go home.”  Life is way too short not to supersize the hell out of it.  My clients know this, which is why they are all rockstars.
Why would they want me around if I weren’t one too? It’s ain’t easy though. We humans are stuck with some evolutionary baggage. We come from schools of fish and herds of animals for whom sameness is a survival skill and standing out from the crowd gets you eaten. So, we have evolved a pleasure response to our own conformity. Fitting in to our peer group evokes a sense of comfort.
Somewhere deep within our brains lies machinery that makes us really dig being part of the flock. Choosing to be a rockstar requires unflocking.  You need to overcome the visceral desire to just sit down, shut up, and accept the status quo like everyone else. But, prepare thyself for some criticism. Evolutionary disdain for your radical behavior causes your peers to fear and loathe you. And they have no qualms about letting you know it.
This kinship-based weirdness suppressor is an evolutionary backup to keep us in line if we can’t self regulate as individuals. When we have too many different ideas, they think we’re crazy and they tell us so. Witness the very epithet “mad scientist.” Heck, witness how any group of teens treats a nonconforming peer. When Fulton proposed the steamboat, they called it Fulton’s Folly and they said it would never work. After all, why put a steam engine on boats when we’ve got reliable, centuries-old sails and oars? I have no doubt that when the first caveman tried rubbing two sticks together in an effort to make fire, the rest of us stood around making fun of him and suggesting he was the Devil.
Some folks have trouble conceiving of their place in a world that is populated by too many crazy rockstars. Just ask the 19th century oarsmen that Fulton’s incredibly useful steam engine put out of work. To become a rockstar, you’ve got to get used to haters and cultivate a certain pleasure in flipping them off. you’ve got to get yourself spending time around people who appreciate weirdness and smartness and boldness, who value your ideas because they are crazy and new. you’ve got to remember that pretty much everyone who ever said it couldn’t be done, about anything, was wrong. So, step 1 to becoming a rockstar is overcoming fear of criticism.  It’s also step 2-10, by the way.  So, that means fishbrain avoidance from here on out.
You want to be a rockstar, but you’ve got this paleocortex in the back of your head insistently pumping out the signal that you are a fearful little ball of nerves just desperately trying to avoid getting eaten (because your paleocortex knows that you are crunchy and good with soy sauce) and pressuring you to just stay in line and avoid the whole hornet’s nest. Not much of a rockstar, your paleocortex. Best to move north. Because you’re also gifted with these highly organized electrochemical potentials in your cerebral cortex, the very newest part of your brain, the part that makes you human.
Your cerebral cortex paves the way for all sorts of useful skills, such as choice.  Such as choosing whether to supersize it. You control the horizontal; you control the vertical.  Choose to be a rockstar. Fear not the longshot, kids.  Always go for the Hail Mary.  If you miss it, that’ll suck a little, but everyone will forgive you.  Hey, it was a longshot. But if you make it… Man, you’re a rockstar.
-Brent — Brent C.J. Britton